Making mom friends shouldn’t feel like a high-stakes networking event but somehow, it often does. If you’ve ever found yourself awkwardly lingering at the end of a playgroup convo, wondering whether it’s too soon to ask for her number, you’re not alone.
Here are three low-pressure, non-cringe ways to start building your mom crew:
1. Just Ask: “Are You on Instagram?”
Tip from mom Maura Powers
Making mom friends can feel surprisingly vulnerable. You strike up a nice convo at the park, the vibes are good, and you’re thinking… do I go in for the phone number? But that can feel a little too much when you’ve only talked for five minutes and someone’s toddler is halfway up the slide.
Instead, keep it casual: “Hey, are you on Instagram?”
Swapping handles is the soft launch of mom friendships. You can reply to stories, find shared interests, and naturally build a connection, without the pressure of jumping straight to playdate planning or managing one more text thread. It’s low lift, low risk, and honestly, it works.
2. Make the First Move (Without the Awkwardness)
Tip from mom Ty Barnes
Yes, it’s scary to start a conversation but most moms are craving connection too. You don’t need a witty opener or a rehearsed line. Try one of these easy icebreakers next time you're in a mom-packed space:
- “How old is your little one?” (Classic, but it works every time.)
- “Have you been here before?” (Great for parks, classes, or chaotic birthday parties.)
- “I’m new to this group – how did you find out about it?”
Keep it light, and if the conversation flows, you can follow it up with Tip #1.
3. Join a Community When You’re Expecting
Moms should consider building their village before the baby arrives. You want to avoid being six months postpartum, exhausted, and trying to bond with someone while your baby is having a meltdown at music class. It's easier to be real and get the support you need when you already have your people.
The Parent Collective, offers prenatal classes led by healthcare professionals and connects you with other expectant families in your area. This creates a built-in support network of parents going through similar experiences when babies arrive.
Other great options include local parent groups, parenting forums, or active parenting communities on Reddit and Facebook, where you can connect with parents who are in the same trenches.
The Bottom Line?
Making mom friends doesn’t have to feel like dating or door-to-door sales. A little courage, a lot of casual, and the right spaces go a long way. Motherhood is better with people who get it and chances are, the mom next to you is hoping you’ll say hi too.
Also check out: The 6 Types of Friends You Have As a First Time Mom